Divorce is an emotional obstacle to overcome for you and your spouse, but
it is especially difficult for children. At a young age, it can be hard
for them to fully understand this sudden life change. In this blog, we
share tips on how to discuss divorce with your children in a way that
helps maintain a strong relationship during the process.
Avoid Pointing the Finger
There are ways to explain the terms of your divorce without shedding a
bad light on your ex-spouse. As parents, the two of you need to pose a
united front and show that although you’re ending the marriage,
you still respect one another.
Keep the Discussion Open
Your child may need to be given time to process the news of the divorce,
and you should grant him or her that time. Throughout the process, the
topic will be revisited multiple times and it’s important that you
let your children know you are always available to further the conversation
when they are ready.
If you can’t promise that everything in your child’s life will
remain the same, don’t promise it. Reassure your child that while
there are a few big changes, you will get through them as a family. You
don’t want to avoid discussing the inevitable – the most important
thing to tell your child is that he or she is loved by both parents.
Build a New Routine
Your life, your ex-spouse’s life, and your child’s life are
very transitional during the divorce process. Use this as an opportunity
to establish a routine – once it’s established, it’s
imperative that you are consistent in keeping up with the routine. During
this time, it’s extremely common for children to test boundaries.
You’ll want to be firm in standing your ground, and once the routine
is well underway, it will become the “new normal.”
The experienced New Orleans divorce attorneys at Chehardy Sherman Williams
have a deep passion for the law and a loyal commitment to clients. Call
us today at (504) 217-2006 or contact us
online to learn how we can help today.